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While romantics believe that love can last you a lifetime, sex plays a major part in keeping those embers ignited. In a city where our lives are run by money, we are over-burdened with the weight that jobs bring and it’s common to experience a dip in desire, both to love and to make love. Ignorance can be your worst enemy. There are common things we do, things that are part of our daily regimen that sap our sex drive. Sexpert Dr Mahindra Watsa sheds light on things that could be siphoning away your love juice.
Hair Renewal Creams
Baldness might be a turn off for many women, but revitalising that crop might just be turning you off sex altogether. There are many baldness creams out there but a few new ones cause erectile dysfunction. A study by George Washington University School of Medicine has pinned it down to the drug finasteride. The study showed that 94 per cent of men using the drug felt lower levels of sexual desire, 92 per cent suffered erectile dysfunction and 69 per cent found it difficult to even have an orgasm. Experts feel that it alters levels of neurotransmitters, chemicals that affect mood and other bodily functions.
Contraception Pills
If you thought that the pill is a free pass for uninhibited lovemaking, think again. Contraceptive pills trick the brain into thinking that a woman’s body is pregnant, hence fertilization does not occur. Ironically, this is precisely what kills any desire for sex in some women. A hospital in Germany conducted a study on 1,000 women on oral contraception and most of them experienced lower levels of arousal. The cases Dr Watsa has encountered show that this affects different women differently.
Having a baby
While humans don’t have sex to only procreate, when it really comes down to it, having a child can cause a recession in the bedroom. Before conception, if a man feels that his erection is not good enough, this can result in him being put off sex. In women, the fear of pain during pregnancy, if not voiced, can result in the same. After conception, many women go through depression, putting them off. Even the attention a baby receives from the mother can make men wonder why things have changed in the relationship hindering the need for sex.
The cardiac club
People who get stressed out, drink and smoke excessively are part of the cardiac club for its long-term effects on your heart. Indulging in a vice might be fun, but it’s not so much under the sheets. Smoking and drinking can cause impotency and erectile dysfunction. While something as simple as a stock market crash or an ineffective day at work can translate negatively in the bedroom.
Common disease pills
Diabetes affects the nerves which causes a decrease in the sense of touch. The disease also causes a drop in testosterone levels and narrows your arteries down, a clear indication of erectile dysfunction.
The medication used for blood pressure has adverse side-effects on sex life. High blood pressure medication reduces the heart rate, hence reducing the blood flow through your body. This can hinder blood from reaching the genitals, giving rise to erectile dysfunction.
Tips to get it going again
Lifestyle changes
Talking to your partner is the first step to getting your sex life back on track. Cut down on sugar, caffeine, alcohol, processed foods and stop smoking to improve blood flow to your sexual organs. Consult your doctor about the medication you are taking. Exercise for at least half an hour three times a week, it will boost your libido and also make you feel sexy.
Organic sex boosters
While garlic might cause halitosis it also acts as a libido booster. Also add ginseng and ginger in your diet. Chocolate with high cocoa content works too. Low levels of zinc can reduce the libido. Wholemeal bread, brown rice, dark green leafy vegetables, lean red meat, turkey and shellfish are rich in zinc content.
Spice it up
Sex toys might be banned in India, but everyone has a friend who visits from debauched countries in the west. Use sex games, share your fantasies and remember not to judge. Psychological stimulation might be all that your flailing libido needs.
I AM A 51 YEAR OLD WOMAN LIVING WITH MY 66 YR.OLD FIANCE’ I WORK M-F 6RS A DAY IN A VERY DEMANDING JOB,16 HRS SAT AND SUN AS A NURSE AND WHEN IM HOME DURING THE WEEK BABYSIT MY 9 YR.OLD AND 22 MONTH OLD GRANDDAUGHTERS UNTIL 7PM AT NITE(MY FIANCE’ HELPS WITH THEM). I NEVER!! AND I MEAN NEVER !!THINK OF SEX LET ALONE WANT IT,WHERE OR HOW CAN I FIND A SEXUAL DESIRE
Obviously your hectic work schedule and household responsibilities have killed your sex drive. Is it possible that someone else (your children?) take care of the children so you can take some more time out for yourselves? Managing two kids at your age would obviously tire you out enough to leave you with no energy to even think of sex. These supplements would help to get the desire but with this schedule it would be very difficult to have anything meaningful when it comes to an active sex life. Try taking some quality time out with your fiance’ !
Libido is a function of good helath, both general well being and the reproductive helath.Regular exercise, normal diet, and preferably abstaining from smoking or drinking(alcohol) could help improve the helath in general and the libido.Heavy consumption of alcohol, and tobacco are known to decrease the sexual urge.Similarly, sedentary lifestyle, obesity, and certain types of foods could induce lower sexual drive.There are numerous hawks who prescribe herbal concoctions to improve libido! Most of them are un tested and many of them are out right fake!A doctor is the best qualified person to test and ascertain if your reproductive helath is good. Based on a medical examination, a doctor would prescribe medication, if your low libido is caused by pathological reasons.Good luck!
I am on Paxil and it takes away any libedo that a woman has.. My hormones are not working either.. I’m 72.. I have a boyfriend that doesn’t have a clue that my libedo is gone.. I need testosterone and ????? Please advise if your pills have testosterone for a woman who has very little to boost.. thanks.
These pills do not have testosterone as such but they help your body produce testosterone naturally to increase your desire. However, considering your other medication it would be best to ask your doctor what would be most useful to get your libido back.
I do not feel like I am a good partner for my husband. I am not on any form of contraception, or any medication. My libido just seems to be absent. Although sometimes I feel like my fear of becoming pregnant henders me from wanting to become intimate. I have tried contraception (for 1yr) it decreased my libido, and affected me emotionally. I have been w/o for about 4yrs. My husband is well endowded and with my libido not being high it makes intimacy very uncomfortable. We have tried lubricants and I have a reaction to them, and do not want to use them. Are there any natural things I can do to help?
If gels are something you don’t prefer, pills might be the answer for your problem. It will help create a hormonal balance required to have a healthy sex drive and enjoyable sexual relationship.
i am 30 year old female with two children, 4 years and 7 month old sons. I absolutley have no sex drive
HELP!!! my libido is nonexsistant,I haven’t even reached my 20′s yet and I have no desire to have sex,the only reason I do it is to keep my boyfriend happy, its always been like that even before i had my birth control put in (Implanon, its a hormonal implant), please help.
Have you been diagnosed with any hormonal imbalances? Some people have a lower sexual appetite but it can be improved with these natural supplements. You could try a course of hersolution pills for a few months because it is unlikely that you would notice a difference straightaway. Of course you will get the gel free with your order, so use it just before sexual intercourse to help with arousal, pleasure and dryness.
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