Many changes happen as people age. For females, one of the first signs of aging is a decreasing sex drive. Many of these are due to the changing levels of hormones in the female body. Hormones control a lot of the major functions in the body; estrogen, for example, determines sexual characteristics and the menstrual cycle. Other factors such as stress and pain also help contribute to a decreased sexual drive.
Female libido may vary from one woman to another. Although there are some factors such as age which are known to contribute to decreasing sex drives, the level of decline also varies with each woman. This is where other factors such as emotional stress and medical conditions help determine why a woman is having more rapid decline in libido.
Let’s look at the different factors that can affect a woman’s sex drive:
- Age: One of the many changes a female experiences with aging are physical changes specifically in their sexual organs. Decreased muscle mass, tissue loss and dryness in the vagina causes soreness, irritation and itching. Decreased comfort and pain decreases sexual pleasure which may lead to a loss in sexual desire or libido.
- Stress: Taking care of your kids or working long hours at the office does not only take a huge toll on your body but also diminishes your appetite for intimacy. We often find ourselves too exhausted at the end of the day and harboring thoughts such as sex is something we postpone or too tired to consider. However, eating a healthy diet or a few minutes of exercise help reduce the levels of stress and help us last longer in bed.
- Medications: Declining sex drive or libido is also considered a health problem. Consulting with a doctor can help you manage this condition better. Medications do not only treat certain diseases but also affect normal functioning in the body. Voicing out your concerns and learning the side effects of your medication can help you determine if your medication is contributing to decreasing sex drive or libido.
- Giving birth: A lot of changes occur in a woman’s body during pregnancy. Some women are more sexually active during pregnancy. This is because of the different changes in hormone levels and the increase of sensations in the female’s sexual organs. When a woman gives birth, hormone levels are again affected. Post-natal depression may also set in. When depression sets in, one of the normal changes includes decreased libido and sex drive.
- Pain during intercourse: Aging brings a lot of sexual changes in a woman. One of these is decreased levels of female secretions or lubrication during intercourse. Females may also notice varying levels of vaginal lubrication during their menstrual cycle. This is because the changing levels of estrogen in the body affect female characteristics such as lubrication. Lack of sex drive could then be attributed to decreased pleasure during intercourse.
Decreased libido can be due to many causes; this condition may not have underlying physical factors. In fact, many women who are considered in their prime may experience varying degrees of decreased female libido or desire. This could also be due to relationship problems, psychological trauma, and negative self-image, and negative feelings toward sex. Consulting with a medical professional such as a doctor or a psychologist can help you determine the cause of decreased sexual desire or libido.
I am 30 years old and have little to no sex drive. My husband and I have been together for 14 years and never had a problem in that area. My husband has been deployed for 3 years and now that hes home he wants sex every day sometimes more than once. I on the other hand could do without it.
Its really starting to put stress on the relationship.
I don’t take any meds, I don’t feel like I’m stressed, there is plenty of 4 play, and I don’t get dry during intercourse??? suggestions? Please!
HerSolution might just be perfect or you since you do not have any issues with sex. Only sex drive is your problem… possibly because you have been away from your husband for a longish time…
I am 26 years old, and I feel like I lost my libido. I am engaged to my boyfriend, I have 2 children, 8 and 5, and I seem to always be too tired at the end of the day, or early in the morning for sex. There was a lot of stress where I was living before with a roommate, however I moved out and my boyfriend and I moved in together a few weeks ago. He works 12 hours a day, and I work 6. He makes sure he has enough energy for sex at the end of the day, but I just don`t feel like it. My body doesn’t produce natural lubrication either, and when we do have sex, my “area” still feels uncomfortable 24 hours later! I also always have some sort of excuse like I am tired, the kids just went to bed and are probably still awake… I just cant seem to figure out why I have no libido anymore. HELP!!
Has sex become monotonous for you? Sometimes, being with someone for a long time can take the excitement away from sex and it becomes more of a chore. Possibly you are going through the same phase in your relationship. You need to spice things up a bit when it comes to sex. Try something new, play out your fantasies, try something different.
I am 46 and had a full histerectomy 5 yrs ago and it took away desire,fullfilment,just about all my drive for sex. I can’t concentrate or get into it at all. When we’re trying I try so hard to mentally get driven,but it doesn’t happen. My husband is an excellent partner & we’ve tried KY products because of dryness and lacks but still nothing. I miss how I felt when I had my female parts. Please help, I’d love something natural & safe. Thanks.
HerSolution is safe and natural and should help to get a part of your sex drive back. It has shown positive effects on women who have lost their sex drive after hysterectomy.
I am 60 years old, had one child a long time ago and wonder if I AM too preoccupied with satisfying my 9 year younger man. I used to be too much into sex, but that was in my teens and twenties. Now, between my (used to be husband)man and I are at a rocky part between us. He has even admitted that physically he is not what he used to be. Hell,when we were younger, we were the “right fit” for each other. Can’t say that I would like as it was, just a little more like the OLD days!
I’m a 33yr old female who is experiencing no sex drive at all.I’m taking antidepressants and anxiety medication.I know one of the side effects is low libido but it was low before i started the medication.What can i do to put a spark in my sex life.
As you have mentioned yourself, antidepressants really do take a toll on your libido. Fortunately, a combination of hersolution pills and gel have shown promising results in reviving the libido of women in these cases. But do not expect miracles and it will take some time.
I am 20 years old, almost 21. I have 0 sex drive. I bought
Hersolution and am currently waiting on it to arrive in the mail. I feel like a terrible girlfriend because i simply cannot get excited..I have tried and tried but there is nothing.I cannot even masturbate anymore. I feel like I should be at my prime and it is so frustrating and depressing that I cannot give my boyfriend the physical attention he wants and deserves. I am giving up hope so if Hersolution does not work…I do not know what I will do..
Please share with us your experience after taking hersolution… Hopefully it will help
I just turned 49 and I’ve noticed a loss of sensation in my breasts and vaginal area. It’s becoming increasingly more difficult to acheive orgasm which in turn decreased my desire to have sex with my husband of 27 years. My doctor has prescribed testosterone cream but I’m wary to try it due to undesirable side effects. Is this normal and what are your suggestions?
It is normal to experience this with age but testosterone cream will help. If you are concerned about side effects you may want to try natural alternatives.
Im a 23 year old woman with two children. after the second, i hav no sex drive at all. my husband and might have sex once or twice a month. i eat right, exercise, and am not taking any kind of pills with hormones in them. id rather not have medicinal help, so do you have any suggestions? this is really straining our relationship.
It’s common to have a low libido in the weeks or even months after having a baby. In the first six weeks after delivery, you’re likely to be exhausted, and possibly sore It’s common to have a low libido in the weeks or even months after having a baby. In the first six weeks after delivery, you’re likely to be exhausted, and possibly sore and overwhelmed. Your body needs time to heal. And you’re now dealing with the 24/7 demands of caring for a newborn.
Some women may have discomfort during intercourse for months after delivery. Also you’re likely to have less natural vaginal lubrication in the first four to six weeks after the birth due to your body’s decreasing level of estrogen during this time. If you’re breastfeeding your baby, this dryness may continue for as long as you continue to nurse. Or it may return slowly as your nursing sessions become less frequent.
There are plenty of other reasons you may not feel like having sex right now. Adjusting to motherhood may be stressful or emotionally all-consuming. You may feel less attractive or less confident in your changing body at this point. You may fear becoming pregnant again, particularly if you are using a new form of contraception. Or you may be struggling with baby blues or postpartum depression.
If you’re not ready to resume your sex life yet, give yourself a break. You need time to adjust both physically and emotionally to the demands of caring for a baby, and there’s no need to rush into having sex until you feel ready. In time, sex will likely be as satisfying as it was before your baby came along.
How do you get back to it though?
There are many ways to be intimate. Take a few minutes to kiss and cuddle before falling asleep at night. Ask your partner for a massage or foot rub. Let him know that you appreciate his affection outside of lovemaking by saying things like, “I love it when you stroke my hair.” He’ll know the spark is still there if you let him know that a kiss on the back of your neck while you’re tending to your baby sends shivers (the good kind) down your spine. Of course, these supplements will help too but that can come later if needed.
hey, i am 18, no children, not stressed and completly lack a libido, every time my boyfriend even suggestes sex i just dont want to.. its not that im not atracted him anymore im not attracted to anyone i just dont want to have sex with anyone… i even stoped masterbating. this is putting alot of strain onto our sexual relationship, our emoinal relationship is great, but i worrie that it wont be for long, is there anything i can do to want to have sex again??
Hey… Have you talked to your doctor about it? It seems more like a psychological issue than anything else. Or perhaps some hormonal imbalance. These herbs might help but the effects won’t be instant. You should consult your doctor/psychologist and determine why this is happening to you before you start doing something about it.
I have not been intimate w/ my wife for a year. She, yes she, did this to me once before in the 8 years we’ve been together. She is not cheating which is what most men automatically think, but this time it was a few factors. 1. a car accident forced her to sleep on the couch. She’s better now, but still on the couch 2. from sitting on couch and doing less than zero exercise she’s put on weight- now it’s a self esteem issue. I’ve complimented, reassured, everything you’re supposed to do. 3 she’s lazy. So with this going she would never be convinced to eat right, exercise, talk to a doctor, buy a pill, topical gel toy or anything I know or have read about and suggested. I’m 41 and have the sex drive I had when I was 18. She in her own words could care less. She rarely ever gets horny she says. I’m pretty much doomed with this woman aren’t I? I mean the offer of oral sex- me on her and that be all doesn’t arouse or interest her. Any thoughts? PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!
You story is quite common. A lot of women lose their sex drive for various reason (including age etc.). That is precisely the reason the market is full of stuff like hersolution which are designed to re-stimulate those hormones and bring the drive back. You should not get disappointed and possibly consult a medical practitioner who might be able to help with any physiological factors that might be impacting your wife.